2022.05.09
I'm sorry for being persistent in the continuation of the last time. According to the dictionary, "kun" is used with light respect and familiarity for people who are equal to or less than you. Sure, it may be a little familiar, but I don't feel much respect. In addition to that, I feel uncomfortable that it is treated as equal to or less than that, that is, it is currently treated. I didn't feel that kind of thing long ago, but the very refreshing experience that my older boss in the and seniors called me with "san" may have changed my sensibility to make me feel uncomfortable. The boss was belong to HR department in the bank I used be working, and the manager of the Mitsubishi Corporation and the manager of the Mitsui Co.,Ltd, who were business partners when working at the Seattle Branch. All three are strangely seniors of the Mita-kai (Keio OB) and are worthy of respect in terms of personality, and even if they are called with "kun", they did not cause any discomfort. Curiously, those people didn't use "kun" but use "san". I didn't have a chance to hear the truth, but there are several possible reasons to imagine. First of all, the theory is that they are all typical elite office workers who are international and confident, so there is no need to put people down by name. The theory that we want to build a flat relationship with an emphasis on human relationships and friendships over the long term. Furthermore, the themselves felt uncomforatble to be callled with "kun". The theory that I realized the convenience and usefulness of "san" and couldn't let go of it. Is it such a place?
Anyway, it is better to graduate as soon as possible with "kun". There are no exceptions to the names of fellow members of the golf club (Sobu Country) to which I belong, with "san". The members are all equal on the green, the world of diversity. It is also a violation of etiquette to ask for private information including age, which may be one of the grounds for attaching "kun". "Kun" is a relic of my student days at best. It feels like it's childish to be an adult and have a senior style. By the way, Japan's "National Diet" is still attached to "kun". Certainly childish, strangely convinced.
